If only we always had great relationships. Unfortunately, nearly every person on Earth had experienced a breakup. Relationship coaches know that cheating and depression are issues the majority of men over 25 had to go through in their lives. So, how do you overcome the stress of a painful breakup and gain the ability to love again?
10 Tips to get over Bad Relationships
You may think that surviving the pain of separation is a misery but let’s check the reality: There is a silver lining here as well. As a dating coach, I believe unhappy connections teach us a lot.
1. Pain provides gain
The lucky people who fall in love in their teens and marry their high school sweethearts may consider themselves content but we, the experienced lot, know: It is only when going through the pain that you learn to appreciate the good things fully. Once you recognize how it feels when someone else does it to you, it makes you much more careful not to do the same things yourself. You also pick on the signs to watch out for, if there is a pattern of behaviour a person exhibits. Glance back and evaluate what went wrong and how you could notice it sooner. Once you think it over, you will feel happier to let it go. You can find online a relationship or dating coach to assist you in the process.
2. Look after yourself
Get a health check, sign up for a gym or hire a personal trainer. Join a dance class. Eat healthier. Go to bed and get up early. Go for a walk daily. These simple steps allow you to clear your mind and feel more alive at the same time.
3. Indulge in what you love
When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to do a lot of sacrifices constantly. Being alone, you may do whatever you desire. It’s okay to spend a day in your pyjamas if this is what you fancy. Get this collectible you always eyed on eBay. Why not?
4. Erase the presence of the past
Get rid of all the memorabilia that reminds you about the person who hurt you. Throw away the photos, delete files from social networks and computers. Give away their presents to a charity or simply chuck them in a bin.
5. Laugh your heart out
There was a guy who managed to cure cancer by watching funny movies. If it works even on physical ailments, it’s even more effective on raising your spirits. As a life coach, I often see clients blossom by following this simple trick. Download comedies and giggle your heart out. Read jokes online. You are allowed to smile and laugh, even if you are going through a bad breakup.
6. Help others
You may think that your life is total gloom but there are people who are less fortunate than yourself. Reach to a charity or simply offer to coach kids at a local school.
7. Call a friend
Treating a heartache is simpler when there are people around. Even if you do not feel like it, reach out to friends and family, reconnect and spend time together.
8. Get a makeover
Girls do it every time, so why not follow what works? Book a proper hairstylist and get a new cut. Lots of shopping centres offer services of a professional stylist for free if you buy clothes there. Department store shopping assistants also will enjoy helping you to put together a new wardrobe. Seriously, any relationship coach knows that by changing your appearance you instantly lift yourself up emotionally. How others view you will also change.
9. Try online dating
After a successful makeover, why not give it a safe ride by using a trusted online dating sites or apps. You don’t even have to meet any women in person if you are not ready. Simply talking to other singles is a great way to get over past bad feelings. There are definitely some nice women in this world who think you are a great catch.
10. Start somewhere
Wallowing in your own sorrows is a nice way to pass time but it is not helpful when you want to move forward. Schedule some activities that you could do tomorrow and this week. Maybe do something right now without too much thinking. Just start somewhere and the situation will improve.