A steel chastity belt enforcing strict orgasm denial and access to his penis is the fantasy of many a man. And it’s easy to see why, because of the many, many benefits of male chastity and orgasm denial that millions of couples around the world can attest to.
But the problem is, the reality is clouded by unlikely and impossible fantasies, as is often the case with this kind of thing.
And while you can argue such fantasies are harmless, and while it’s true they are harmless in the main, it’s also true they can be harmful and damaging to those serious couples who actually swallow the fantasy as fact.
So right now we’re going to look at the three biggest myths about steel chastity belts and devices.
- There is a “best” belt or chastity device. Unfortunately, this is not true. There are many, different makes and they’re made from materials as diverse as polycarbonate, stainless steel and titanium. And the only real measure of their relative worth is how well they work for you. Some men, for example, find the polycarbonate devices very effective, even for long-term use; but other men, like my husband, John, found they were effectively useless because he could still masturbate while wearing it. There is often no alternative but to try a few devices and, depending on how serious you are, go for a higher-end custom-made device. Yes, they’re not cheap, but you might be wearing the device for a long time, and if male chastity is important to you, then it’s worth the investment. A belt you don’t wear because it’s uncomfortable or causes soreness or simply doesn’t fit properly is the most expensive device you will ever wear. You might even find you end up buying more than one fairly expensive device because the one you hoped was The One True Device didn’t work out in practice. The key is perseverance. If you want chastity badly enough, then you’ll stick with it — and, believe me, it’s worth it in the long run.
- You can simply put it on and forget it. This is a common lie: “my wife locked it on me while I was asleep and now I can’t get it off, and I’ve been locked like this for six months”. Fact is, a good device takes some effort to get on. As it should, because a device that’s too easy to get in is probably a poor fit and will likely be easy to escape from. More than that, though, you need time to let your body adjust to wearing it. There will be the inevitable chafing and a little soreness, just as there is with a new pair of shoes. So take your time to let it all settle down. There is no hurry.
- They can be 100% secure. Nope. Another lie. No steel chastity belt or other male chastity device can ever be completely secure. Any one of them can be removed with the kind of simple tools every man has in his garage, albeit with some (perhaps considerable) damage to it. More than that, most men can, with enough effort and determination, bring themselves to orgasm wearing a belt or other device. They are nothing more than a deterrent, the level of deterrence being set by the man’s desire to remain chaste and to some extent by the style, nature and material of the device itself.
I realise what I’ve written above might be disappointing to you, but it’s the truth. And going into male chastity with ideas and expectations based on lies will only set you up for disappointment.